Yes, I Want To Be Happy…I Think
So, back in the late 80s some of the biggest rappers in East Coast Hip Hop collaborated on a song titled, Self-Destruction in response to the recurring violence that was taking place within hip-hop communities at the time. Not only did the song urge people to lay down their weapons, but it also warned them against the perils of destruction they were committing against themselves.
Now, I promise this not a rap history lesson or a lecture on the dangers of violence, but a discussion about self-destruction, more specifically self-sabotage. Let me begin by asking a few questions: when happiness arrives on your doorstep, do you welcome it and invite into your home, or treat it as an unwanted salesperson and slam the door in its face? Do you find 101 reasons why unexpected happiness won’t last? Do you convince yourself you’re undeserving of happiness because you’re not a “good person”? And here’s the million-dollar question, do you purposely ruin anything good that comes your way because you doubt its authenticity?
If we’re keeping it 100, (that’s ebonics for “being honest”), many of you aren’t going to answer yes to any of those questions, but just in case you got bit by the honesty bug before reading this blog post, and you did answer yes, then my dear brother or sister, you are a self-sabotager.
It’s time for you to get off the path of Self-Destruction and start walking down Confidence Lane. I could be mistaken, but I don’t think there are too many people who would readily admit they don’t want to be happy. We all want happiness, right? For each of us, happiness looks different. For some, it’s being financially wealthy…very wealthy…extremely wealthy. For others, happiness is having a stable career, owning a home, and sharing it with a beautiful family. Then there are those who define happiness as the ability to simply wake each morning, place their feet on the ground, and walk around. Like I said before, happiness looks different for each of us.
Don’t get me wrong, we all have doubts about our abilities, people, things, and places. It’s good practice and wise to be cautious about what and who we let into our lives, and what we agree to do or say, so yes be discerning. But don’t be so fearful or skeptical that you walk around tight-fisted and miss the blessing God is trying to place into your hands.
When you become a habitual cynic or habitually pessimistic about the “good” people are doing for you or the good happening in your life, you’re sabotaging yourself or even choosing to not be happy. People and things can make us feel happy, but ultimately, happiness is a choice. Don’t be that guy or that girl who thinks you’re undeserving of happiness or attributes of it. Despite what mistakes or decisions you’ve made, or egregious things you’ve done, you were purposed to live a fulfilling and prosperous life. So stop doubting! Just open your hands and receive it…happiness that is.
Until we speak again…Smooches
Are you that guy or that girl that won’t allow happiness to live in your life? If so, why not?
Another great post! I love the part when you said, ” If we’re keeping it 100, (that’s ebonics for “being honest”) ” lol, I love it! Keep up the great posting 🙂
LOL. Thanks Naomi. So glad you enjoyed the post